Even though they are family, it doesn’t mean they have your best interest at heart. Some family will use you financially, some will mentally and emotionally exhaust you. It isn’t worth it. You don’t have to make excuses for them. You don’t have to spend time around them. It is more than okay to set boundaries to protect your own worth. Some family will be fake to your face and then make comments behind your back to tear you down. Some family act like they care when they have been behind the bad that has happened in your life. It is okay to walk away from people who hurt you, to walk away from those who hinder your growth, and to walk away from those who only desire to destroy you.
It isn’t a hard concept. It doesn’t take much to be kind. Smile. Lend a hand. Offer some good advice. Take a chance. Pick up litter. Donate your time or your skills. Here is a big one. You don’t like the way someone talks, walks, looks? Walk away. You don’t like their sexual orientation, their views, the color of their skin? Walk away. There is nothing stating you have to be mean or to put someone day. Does everyone have the right to feel how they want on certain topics? Yes. Do people have freedom of speech? Yes. But don’t we all have the basic right to live a life without fear of being hurt because someone doesn’t agree with what we do? People go around shooting people because they’re gay. What does that solve? People go and set churches on fire for not having the same views as them. What does that solve. The answer is nothing. People can decide to not agree with the things others do and do it in a non-hateful way. They can agree to disagree. If I don’t agree with someone, I’m not going to act out in violence. But that is what the world is coming to. What a sad concept. We’ve become a country that just keeps dividing more and more. I feel for the future generations. I get there has always been hatred, but it’s climbed to a whole other level with so many people that are considered “different” being focused on. Just remember, being kind is free. If you see someone who is struggling, being bullied, being violated, taking the few extra minutes to let them know that what is happening isn’t right and that they are supported can literally make a huge difference in their life. Be kind.
Have you ever felt this desire, this need, to want to be more? Like there’s so much good you can do in this world, but you aren’t quite sure how to go about doing it? That’s me on the daily. I like making things. I’m crafty. So I like to try and figure out what I might be able to do with that. Or a way to make a difference in the community. Or a way to make it so people all over the world want to share their stories without fear. My mind constantly races with so many thoughts on how to do more, to be more, that it can be overwhelming. I’ve gone through a lot the last couple of years and it’s changed me to some extent. But at the core, I’m still me. I still want to believe in good in this world. I want to be the change (“You must be the change you wish to see in this world,” -Gandhi). I’m not sure to start though. I’ll make lists. Little things I can do. And work to bigger things. I don’t want to do these things to make a name for myself. I don’t want to be the person who has an ulterior motive. You see those types of people alllllll the time. They are the ones who flock to social media sites and are are like “I did this and this and this so praise me on this post for being so great….” That’s not what making a difference is about. It isn’t about getting a million followers. It isn’t about making your ego bigger. It’s about that feeling you get when someone else’s day is better. Watching someone smile because something good went their way.
The last two years have taught me what I don’t want to be. I don’t want to be the fake person who acts like they’re about doing good deeds for publicity or money. I don’t want to be the type of person who makes others believe because I did something for them, they owe me. I don’t want power over people. I want to lift someone up when they’re down. I want to help. I want to heal. I want to protect. I just want to do so much. I want to be a better person than I was yesterday, for myself and for others. I know I can be a better person and I know I can make a difference. One step at a time.