Too often we shut ourselves down because we don’t believe we should be allowed to be loved. It’s as if we let our pasts determine whether or not we deserve to be loved. There’s times we don’t even have a hand in our actions, but because of what we’ve been through we become cold and distant when we really want to be warm and welcoming. It’s easier to shut down to people and hurt them before they can hurt us. Push people away and keep them at a distance for their safety and our own. All we truly end up doing is hurting people who would do anything for us. It isn’t easy to put in the work of relationships, to let people in, and to heal. But it will be worth it. When you feel like closing down, think about the reasons you opened up in the first place.